Dear Jac,

My wife and I are trying to get pregnant. We’ve ‘tried’ only once since this decision and she’s convinced it’s happened. Please explain to her that you can’t get pregnant after just the one time. She loves your blog, I know she’ll listen to you.

Sincerely yours,

TK

Dear TK,

Congratulations on the big decision. Although the odds are against you getting it right the first time, it is not impossible. You know that week in junior high when they change gym class to health class? I’m not sure if you missed that week, but they explain it only takes once.

Even condoms aren’t 100% effective. I’ve known people who use a condom and birth control and still got pregnant. I also know someone who got pregnant despite the fact that her partner ‘pulled out’ prior to.

So anything is possible. Did you attend all of your math classes? How about the lesson on probability? She either is pregnant, or isn’t. There’s a 50/50 chance. Take the test. Take it a second time a week later, if you don’t trust the results. Or go to the doctor.

She may not be pregnant, but avoiding the test leaves everyone unsatisfied. And keep trying tiger – at least the process is fun.

Jac

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• Disclaimer: Jac Star is not a trained or qualified psychiatrist, although she does read a lot of books. The advice given here should not be substituted for professional counseling. Mainly because it’s free. And professional advice usually isn’t. If you have a question you’d like Jac to answer, please email her with the topic “Dear Jac” and she will try her best to offer you her worldly advice. Hopefully.

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