Dear Jac,
My boyfriend is in a band, he’s the lead singer. This is how we met. I saw him perform at some local venue, heard his voice and fell in love.
Anyways, we’ve been dating for a few years now and I actually wrote him a song!
It’s taken me a while to get it done perfectly and now it’s definitely presentable. He has no idea.
The problem is that I’m not a singer (I’m tone deaf), I don’t play any instruments (no rhythm), and I’m musically challenged. I can’t perform this song. What can I do? I really want him to hear it. I’d prefer it to be a live performance so that he can be mesmerized the way I was with him when we met.
Musically useless,
Susie Q
Hey Susie Q,
First, well done! It’s not an easy thing to write a song, so congrats to you. You do have some options yet.
My first recommendation is talking to your boyfriend’s band. They might know someone else who can sing and put the song together for you. On a night when your boyfriend and his band set out to play, they could nicely ask him to stand down for one song and call a ‘guest singer’ for their next number. Voila. Your boyfriend gets his song sung and is totally surprised.
If it’s not their style of music, they may be able to recommend another band or artist who would do that for you. I find that the music folk stick together. Everybody knows somebody.
You could also have it recorded and just play him the song. Again, you’d have to find someone in the music biz for that. You could ask your boyfriend the steps in becoming a recording artist. He could give lots of little tips without having any idea that you have a song in the making.
And if you’re truly just not ready (this is probably your baby), you could always just hand over the music to your boyfriend and let him do what he wants with it. That’s not a bad option either. It’s private, it’s romantic, and it’s probably less stressful on you.
Let me know how it turns out!
Best of luck,
Jac
- Disclaimer: Jac Star is not a trained or qualified psychiatrist, although she does read a lot of books. The advice given here should not be substituted for professional counseling. Mainly because it’s free. And professional advice usually isn’t. If you have a question you’d like Jac to answer, please email her with the topic “Dear Jac” and she will try her best to offer you her worldly advice. Hopefully.
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